Wow…  @GayleKing @viv.oyolu Thank you for your response to my comment but I beg to differ because I have talked to several potential suicide young black boys while working with juvenile justice and it is this talk that makes them open up… 

Wow…  @GayleKing @viv.oyolu Thank you for your response to my comment but I beg to differ because I have talked to several potential suicide young black boys while working with juvenile justice and it is this talk that makes them open up…  Hopelessness is three-fold 1- diet, 2 – family, 3 – outside influences…  Young boy who eat well and regular are less likely as long as they are getting a good amount of physical activity like basket ball…  Black boys will form a gang mentality to compensate for family absences like a missing father in the home…  I always tell them that it is their mother’s fault that they don’t have a daddy…  🙂  It is amazing how they don’t know how to act when they hear that; then I tell them I am just kidding…  But most of them take that to heart and will tell their mother when she visits what I said and you should see them looking for her reaction…  See the one thing about boys is that they look for reactions and then begin to act accordingly…  Now the outside influence is the toughest because there are adults out there telling young BLACK boys they should kill themselves over the internet and many different ways; for many deviant selfish reasons…  There is a cold place in HELL for these people…  These are the people I call the “they people…”  The first thing you have to do when talking to a kid that even mentions “they people” is to ask him who is they???  Usually he will say “you know who they is…”  Then I tell them, no I don’t, “What is they name???”  When he can’t answer, I then tell him if  “they people” don’t have a name then “they people” don’t matter; but if you give me their name then I will take appropriate actions to find out why he/she is telling you, you are worthless…  Once they realize that if “they people” have a name someone can confront them to DEFEND him, then his attitude changes…

I have dealt with a few BLACK girls and girls deal with the problems 1 and 2 pretty easily but the outside influence with them goes really deep because they get torn between the money they are getting for sexing some man/woman up and the guilt they feel for wanting it…  (Please don’t insult my intelligence to act like women don’t sexually assault girls because that is over half of the abusers…)  That is why I realized that I did not have the tools to talk to black women because only women can understand what that feels like…  Unlike black boy, a physical activity like basketball will not work for girls because sex is a physical activity; beside girls won’t tell you “they people” name anyway…  To an at-risk black girl “secrecy is power” because that is the only thing that she can control without feeling guilty…  So you see suicide in the black inner city community can be very complicated but I have never lost a kid…  Thank God…

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