“Wow… I believe the people that get rich by being slum-lords to POOR BLACK AND BROWN people and the unethical Code Enforcement Officers who look the other way and give them a PASS – are guilty of MURDER…”

 

I believe the people that get rich by being slum-lords to POOR BLACK AND BROWN people and the unethical Code Enforcement Officers who look the other way and give them a PASS – are guilty of MURDER… 

First and Foremost, Black Toxic Mold Exposure is highest among black and minority children which causes early childhood illnesses such as Asthma… This Blog is to alert the Black parents that Medical Professionals are more interested in making money on their child’s diagnosis of asthma than educating them about the primary cause which is “Black Toxic Mold” in their residences…  Black Toxic Mold Exposure is a primary cause of Asthma, Anxiety, and even death in Black and minority children… 

I have been suffering from Toxic Black Mold Toxicity which has wreaked havoc with my brain and body health for the past five years (since 2014) which unknowing to me it was in my HVAC vent and my carpet…

If I had bought a $10.00 Mold test kit at Lowes 10 years ago when I moved in, I would not have been unemployed and suffering from all sorts of symptom for the last five years that has caused me so much pain and suffering… 

I suggest that everyone gets a Mold test kit and use it to determine if your residence is safe and free from Black Toxic Mold…

I believe that a friend of mine three or four year old daughter died of indirect exposure to Black Toxic Mold back in 2013… She and her daughter use to hang out with me and the people that lived where I live, which is where I have been exposed to Black Toxic Mold… In hindsight now another friend of my two to three year old daughter came over to my place back in 2014 became immediately ill and threw up on my floor…

I also know of another woman’s daughter who lived here back then who stayed sickly to the point that I thought she was a bad parent…  Thank God she moved shortly after I observed the poor health of your daughter… 

Black Toxic Mold is nothing to play with because it kill and or severely degrade the health of poor Black and brown children; least we forget the many adult black people that die of what the health profession consider common black adult health issues…

Black Toxic Mold causes Tooth and Gum Decay

Black Toxic Mold causes Eye Irritation…

Black Toxic Mold Wreaks Havoc on Brain and Body Health…

THE QUESTION THAT I WANT ALL OF THE DEMOCRATIC CANDIDATES TO ANSWER IS: “WHAT DO THEY PLAN TO DO ABOUT ALL THE SLUM-LORDS RENTING BLACK TOXIC MOLD INFESTED RENTAL PROPERTIES TO PARENTS OF BLACK AND BROWN CHILDREN AND PAY UNETHICAL CODE ENFORCEMENT INSPECTORS TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY???

“WHY HASN’T THE CDC MADE BLACK TOXIC MOLD EXPOSURE IN THE POOR BLACK AND BROWN RESIDENCES A PUBLIC SAFETY CRISIS; IS IT BECAUSE WE ARE BLACK AND BROWN AND NOT WHITE???
BLACK TOXIC MOLD EXPOSURE IS A PUBLIC SAFETY CRISIS IN THE BLACK AND BROWN COMMUNITY – CDC NEED TO DO THEIR JOB TO PROTECT ALL AMERICANS REGARDLESS OF COLOR…”

“Wow…  I believe the people that get rich by being slum-lords to POOR BLACK AND BROWN people and the unethical Code Enforcement Officers who look the other way and give them a PASS – are guilty of MURDER…” 

“Wow… THE QUESTION THAT I WANT ALL OF THE DEMOCRATIC CANDIDATES TO ANSWER IS: “WHAT DO THEY PLAN TO DO ABOUT ALL THE SLUM-LORDS RENTING BLACK TOXIC MOLD INFESTED RENTAL PROPERTIES TO PARENTS OF BLACK AND BROWN CHILDREN AND PAY UNETHICAL CODE ENFORCEMENT INSPECTORS TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY???””

THE QUESTION THAT I WANT ALL OF THE DEMOCRATIC CANDIDATES TO ANSWER IS: “WHAT DO THEY PLAN TO DO ABOUT ALL THE SLUM-LORDS RENTING BLACK TOXIC MOLD INFESTED RENTAL PROPERTIES TO PARENTS OF BLACK AND BROWN CHILDREN AND PAY UNETHICAL CODE ENFORCEMENT INSPECTORS TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY???”

“Living with people that got asthma — it’s really scary,” said Darlene Summerville, here with son Keyonta and daughter Ka-niya. (Doug Kapustin for KHN)

My beautiful picture

Black Toxic Mold infection on my legs…

Black Toxic Mold infection causes tooth and gum decay…

 

Black Toxic Mold infection on my legs…

Black Toxic Mold coming out of my HVAC vent, covering my ceiling, infecting my carpet, and all of my possessions…

“Wow… THE QUESTION THAT I WANT ALL OF THE DEMOCRATIC CANDIDATES TO ANSWER IS: “WHAT DO THEY PLAN TO DO ABOUT ALL THE SLUM-LORDS RENTING BLACK TOXIC MOLD INFESTED RENTAL PROPERTIES TO PARENTS OF BLACK AND BROWN CHILDREN AND PAY UNETHICAL CODE ENFORCEMENT INSPECTORS TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY???””

“First and Foremost, Black Toxic Mold Exposure is highest among black and minority children which causes early childhood illnesses such as Asthma… This Blog is to alert the Black parents that Medical Professionals are more interested in making money on their child’s diagnosis of asthma than educating them about the primary cause which is “Black Toxic Mold” in their residences… Black Toxic Mold Exposure is a primary cause of Asthma, Anxiety, and even death in Black and minority children…”

   First and Foremost, Black Toxic Mold Exposure is highest among black and minority children which presents in an early childhood illness such as Asthma…
Black Toxic Mold Exposure is a primary cause of Asthma and Anxiety in Black and minority children… 
Asthma disproportionately affects minority children living in poverty.
Asthma prevalence rates are significantly higher for lower income and for some racial and ethnic minority children. 

Black children have a higher risk of mortality, and a higher rate of emergency department visits for asthma when compared to white or Hispanic children, as well as a higher prevalence of doctor diagnosed asthma (13.4%).

https://www.childrenshealthfund.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/HBL-Literature-Review-2-2-2017.pdf

7,8
Disparities in housing conditions by household income, race, and ethnicity likely contribute to the observed disparities in asthma prevalence.
National survey data indicates that the likelihood for unhealthy conditions is greater in low income and in some minority-headed households (e.g.,
non-Hispanic Black, American Indian). 
9 The National Survey of Lead and Allergens in Housing found that the likelihood of higher levels of cockroach and mouse allergens were also significantly higher in the homes of low income households. 
10,11There are also significant racial and ethnic disparities in the consequences of uncontrolled asthma. Low income minority children are less likely to be prescribed medications, less likely to take recommended medications to control their asthma, and are less likely to attend outpatient appointments.

Secondly, Black Toxic Mold exposure causes the highest numbers of Mental Health issues in Adult Black Americans which often result into imprisonment or death…

https://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/african-american-mental-health

According to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, black children are twice as likely to have asthma as white children. And black children are 10 times more likely than white kids to die of complications from asthma.

https://www.cdc.gov/asthma/most_recent_data.htm

According to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, black children are twice as likely to have asthma as white children. And black children are 10 times more likely than white kids to die of complications from asthma. 

“It isn’t clear why asthma outcomes are worse in African American patients. The findings from our study suggest that poorer asthma outcomes are not genetic or biological in nature, but are instead due to a number of socioeconomic and environmental factors that impact asthma care,” says Anne Fitzpatrick, PhD. “These factors can be modified and improved with the right interventions.”
 
Fitzpatrick is associate professor of pediatrics and director of the Asthma Clinical Research Program in the Department of Pediatrics at Emory University School of Medicine.

Childhood asthma has been linked to indoor mold growing in a child’s home as a result of moisture problems such as water leaks. The connection between mold and asthma, however, is complicated and not fully understood. Asthma is often associated with allergies, and molds spread by releasing tiny spores into the air, which can cause allergic reactions.

A team led by Dr. Tiina Reponen of the University of Cincinnati has been  investigating the relationship between mold and childhood asthma. Between 2001 and 2003, they collected dust samples from 289 homes with infants who were an average of 8 months old. At age 7, the kids had allergy skin tests and tests for asthma. The study was funded by NIH’s National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences (NIEHS), the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development and U.S. Environmental Protection Agency (EPA). 

Isolating an environmental trigger could lead to better informed preventive efforts to reduce the incidence of asthma, a condition on the rise nationwide and an important public health concern. According to previous studies, asthma is estimated to cause several thousand deaths annually and cost more than $15 billion per year in direct medical expense. 

“Early life exposure to mold seems to play a critical role in childhood asthma development,” Tiina Reponen, Ph.D.  , lead author on the study and a UC professor of environmental health, was quoted as saying in a UC Healthnews press release… 

“First and Foremost, Black Toxic Mold Exposure is highest among black and minority children which causes early childhood illnesses such as Asthma… This Blog is to alert the Black parents that Medical Professionals are more interested in making money on their child’s diagnosis of asthma than educating them about the primary cause which is “Black Toxic Mold” in their residences…  Black Toxic Mold Exposure is a primary cause of Asthma, Anxiety, and even death in Black and minority children…”

 

“Wow… I believe the Science adequately proves that “Black Toxic Mold” is a direct cause of “Mental Health Disorders” – among Veterans and Soldiers – who have been directly exposed to “Black Toxic Mold” in their housing situations; which has a direct effect on the Soldier’s wife and children sharing the dwelling…”

 

 

I believe that Black Toxic Mold  is the most common cause of Psychiatric Disorders – under diagnosed – in Veterans and Soldiers and is directly linked to their long-term effects like memory loss, insomnia, anxiety, depression, trouble concentrating, and confusion which are all identical symptom of PTSD which many Veterans and Service men suffer from… 

“John (Me) reaction to Black Toxic Mold Exposure…”

Black Toxic Mold exposure is known to cause asthma and life-threatening primary and secondary infections in immune-compromised patients that have been exposed…  Nearly 1 in 4 active duty members showed signs of a mental health condition, according to a 2014 study in JAMA Psychiatry…

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4057988/  

 

The Veterans Administration reports that approximately 22 veterans die by suicide every day.
Lengths of deployments are associated with more emotional difficulties among military children and more mental health problems among U.S. Army wives…

https://www.thenationalcouncil.org/topics/veterans/ 

Physical health is another likely mediator of the potential link between residence in a damp and moldy dwelling and risk of depression.   Residence in a damp and moldy dwelling is linked with poor physical health outcomes, including respiratory problems,17 asthma,16,18   diarrhea,18 nausea,28 and headaches.20 Such recurring conditions may be associated with anxiety and depression, thus mediating the potential association between exposure to dampness or mold and depression.

https://ajph.aphapublications.org/doi/10.2105/AJPH.2006.093773

Black Mold toxicity can manifest with so many different and diverse symptoms, that it is frequently misdiagnosed by the doctors at the Veteran Administration (VA) Medical Facilities.

Black Toxic Mold in my Apartment taken on 6/25/2019

It is likely, that in some cases the cause of chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, mast cell activation disorder, histamine intolerance, irritable bowel and leaky gut, multiple sclerosis and post-treatment Lyme syndrome, which do not respond to treatment, are due to a chronic inflammatory response caused by black toxic mold.

Unfortunately mold toxicity is not on the radar of many practitioners, and thus they do not include it as part of the differential diagnosis.    
It is my experience that most Veteran Administration (VA) Practitioners never consider “Black Toxic Mold” exposure as a baseline cause of many of the brain and body health issues Veterans and Soldiers experience on a daily basis…
I unknowingly have been exposed to black toxic mold from the time I first became very ill over Five years ago until now…  I have exhibited all of the below mentioned common Black Toxic Mold symptoms; but the VA practitioners unsuccessful treated the symptom with drugs that made me feel worst instead doing the proper test to determine the true cause of my illness…  

 

John (Me) Black Toxic Mold Skin Rash  taken on 7/2/2019

I was hospitalized (non VA) for three days back in 2015 and have had several appointments with VA doctors but was diagnosed with gastroenteritis and rhabdomyolysis…  The VA referred me to mental health where the doctor prescribed me with an anti-depressant for mood swing and anxiety…
I like many of the patients in this study  knew 

Some of the common symptoms of toxic mold and CIRS are:

1. Fatigue
2. Weakness
3. Aches
4. Muscle Cramps   

John (me) Red Eye Black Toxic Mold Exposure 9/16/2018

 

 

5. Unusual Pain
6. Ice Pick Pain
7. Headache
8. Light Sensitivity
9. Red Eyes
10. Blurred Vision
11. Tearing
12. Sinus Problems
13. Cough
14. Shortness of Breath 
15. Abdominal Pain 

John (me) apartment Black Toxic Mold HVAC Vent on 11/17/2016

 

16. Diarrhea
17. Joint Pain
18. Morning Stiffness         
19. Memory Issues
20. Focus/Concentration Issues
21. Word Recollection Issues
22. Decreased Learning of New Knowledge
23. Confusion
24. Disorientation
25. Skin Sensitivity
26. Mood Swings
27. Appetite Swings
28. Sweats (especially night sweats)
29. Temperature Regulation or Dysregulation Problems
30. Excessive Thirst
31. Increased Urination
32. Static Shocks
33. Numbness
34. Tingling 
35. Vertigo
36. Metallic Taste
37. Tremors

 

The good news is that once the diagnosis is made, this is a very treatable condition. It  can take a long time because it must be done very carefully and slowly, or symptoms can be exacerbated by the treatment itself, as the mold toxins are mobilized…
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/holistic-psychiatry/201708/mold-toxicity-common-cause-psychiatric-symptoms

https://www.survivingmold.com/community/mary-ackerley-the-brain-on-fire-the-role-of-toxic-mold-in-triggering-psychiatric-symptoms  

Although people complain of depression and anxiety, I often find that fatigue and muscle and joint pain are the strongest complaints. Those complaints are usually ignored by traditional busy family practitioners because they lump them all together under the heading “depression.”
The most common complaint from people – like Veterans and service members – who are being treated for depression and anxiety is, “My brain just doesn’t work the way it used to.”

Dr. Mary Ackerley – an integrative psychiatrist and author of: The Brain on Fire: The role of toxic mold in triggering psychiatric symptoms – has made a direct  correlation between Black Mold Toxicity and Psychological Health Disorder…  

All treatment of biotoxin-associated illness starts with diagnosis. Diagnosis is difficult since we’re not routinely taught what’s involved in a biotoxin-associated illness. In fact, most doctors still believe that mold isn’t really a big deal, that maybe if you’re exposed to gross amounts of mold, and you inhale it, and you have asthma or pulmonary problem, then we can say that mold has been a problem.  But anything else, like fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, depression or anxiety, traditionally won’t be considered to be caused by mold.

However, it’s my experience that neuroinflammation is highly present in people with psychiatric complaints, especially people not easily helped by traditional, easily available treatments.

Some of the clues for when you should be considering the diagnosis of biotoxin illness or neuroinflammation are present when the patient has no family history and their age at presentation. If somebody comes to me complaining of symptoms of bipolar but they don’t have a family history and it started in their 50s, I’m going to be suspicious that I’m looking at a genetic idiosyncratically caused bipolar. I’m going to be looking for other causes. And the big things that I’m going to be looking for are neurotoxins, primarily mold. Perhaps Lyme. And other cerebral insults, such as an infarction or something like that.

Anxiety disorders and panic disorders don’t start in the 50s. Depression starting after menopause, maybe. But I’m happier when I do a diagnosis of depression when the person had depression before and menopause has made it worse, or they have a family history of that illness.

You want to be asking, “Have you been exposed to mold?

https://www.survivingmold.com/community/mary-ackerley-the-brain-on-fire-the-role-of-toxic-mold-in-triggering-psychiatric-symptoms

 

I believe as Ms. Mary Ackerley stated “Anxiety disorders and panic disorders don’t start in the 50s…”

She said the only thing that had changed in her life was that she’d decided to renovate her house. As the walls were being torn out, she smelled mold, and workers had found mold behind several walls.  I thought, “Oh, okay, mold. I’ve heard of this before.”  Finally it occurred to me that maybe this was a mold patient.

We read Dr. Shoemaker’s book Mold Warriors together. When we found the list of the symptoms, she said, “Oh, I have ice pick pains” and “I have brain fog, and I’ve been urinating a lot, and my stomach’s been hurting.” In fact, she’d made an appointment to see a gastrointestinal specialist to get a workup for stomach pains.

She presented to me with confusion, severe brain fog and increased depression. But she had multiple symptoms and had seen many doctors now. Nobody had been able to help her with anything.  We read a little further in Dr. Shoemaker’s book, and I said, “Cholestyramine seems pretty innocuous to use, so let’s try it.” I gave her a prescription for cholestyramine (CSM) and told her to take it three to four times a day.

She came back three weeks later and I saw a different person. It was startling.

“Wow…  I believe the Science adequately proves that “Black Toxic Mold” is a direct cause of  “Mental Health Disorders” – among  Veterans and Soldiers – who have been directly exposed to “Black Toxic Mold” in their housing situations; which  has a direct effect on the Soldier’s wife and children sharing the dwelling…”

“Wow… Black TOXIC MOLD EXPOSURE scientifically known as Stachybotrys wreak havoc with your brain and body health… Stachybotrys is actually a toxin that releases toxic gas and spores into the air. When the toxins are inhaled or enter your body through your skin’s pores, the toxic gases can disrupt healthy brain function and impact behavior…”

Black TOXIC MOLD EXPOSURE scientifically known as Stachybotrys wreak havoc with your brain and body health…

Stachybotrys is actually a toxin that releases toxic gas and spores into the air. When the toxins are inhaled or enter your body through your skin’s pores, the toxic gases can disrupt healthy brain function and impact behavior…  
 https://www.amenclinics.com/conditions/toxic-mold-exposure/

However, not everybody is susceptible to developing symptoms from toxic mold exposure. It is estimated that only about 25% of people are vulnerable to mold toxicity due to a genetic predisposition. For example, mold in a home may affect only one family member even though the whole family is exposed to it…

Homes in America are typically constructed using wood and drywall, where mold thrives. Even worse, did you know that half of the buildings in the United States—schools, office buildings, hotels, and more—may be water damaged? This makes them prime breeding grounds for mold… 

What isn’t as commonly known is that exposure to mold can also produce a variety of neuropsychological issues, including:

Depression                                                 
Anxiety
Mood swings
Memory problems                                        
Brain fog
Focus and concentration issues
Irritability
Confusion
Sleep disorders
Psychological distress
Exhaustion                                                             
Changes in touch or sensation
Unexplained muscle problems
Vertigo
Headaches
Coordination problems
Digestive issues
Numbness or ‘pins and needles’ feeling “I believe I was exposed to this kind of ‘Black Mold’ in my Apartment and had most of the above symptoms  over the last five years…  I was admitted into the hospital in 2015

 and was diagnosed of many different ailments but NOT BLACK MOLD TOXICITY EXPOSURE even though now I know that I had all the symptoms…”   

They also increase the risk of depression, suicide, ADHD, learning problems, memory problems, brain fog, autism, temper outbursts, psychotic behavior, and dementia…
Because mold toxicity can produce such a wide range of symptoms, it is often misdiagnosed. It may be mistaken for a traumatic brain injury, the first signs of dementia, or Lyme disease, or your symptoms may be written off as depression or anxiety…

Mold toxicity and other types of brain toxicity remain underdiagnosed. The medical community has been slow to acknowledge the association between exposure to mold and other toxins as a cause for psychiatric symptoms. Sadly, when people with undetected exposure to mold or other toxins are misdiagnosed, treatments often don’t work. And in some cases, they can make symptoms worse. Without the appropriate treatment and with continued exposure to the toxin, your brain can be subjected to further injury… 

“I was hospitalized in April 2015 from what I believe now were symptoms of Black Mold infection which caused me much pain and discomfort…  I was diagnosed as having gastroenteritis and rhabdomyolysis…” 
Common early symptoms of rhabdomyolysis include:

• muscle pain, often extremely painful aching and throbbing
• muscle weakness
• muscle swelling or inflammation
• dark-, cola-, or tea-colored urine
• general exhaustion or fatigue
• irregular heartbeat
• dizziness, light-headed, or feeling faint  
• confusion or disorientation   
• nausea or vomiting  
  https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/318224.php

“I have been under medical care and in need of medical care ever since I was hospitalized…  I have been unable to work because of most or all the symptoms listed above…”   
Medical attention should be sought any time that symptoms of rhabdomylosis occur. Untreated cases can become serious and may cause life-threatening complications such as kidney failure…”   

This can eventually lead to a worsening of your symptoms and can 

impact other areas of your life, including your 

career and relationships. Without the appropriate treatment, brain toxicity can steal your mind and steal your life…

If you are experiencing psychiatric symptoms and you aren’t responding to treatment, it’s worth investigating if exposure to mold or other toxins may be the root cause… 

The good news is that it is possible to accurately diagnose brain toxicity with the help of brain SPECT imaging. SPECT measures blood flow and activity in the brain, and it shows three things: healthy activity, underactive areas, and overactive areas. On brain scans, an overall pattern of low blood flow is commonly seen in brain toxicity…

With a comprehensive evaluation, you can get an accurate diagnosis and a treatment plan that is personalized for your needs. It’s important to know that there are successful treatments available to overcome brain toxicity… 

“Wow… Black TOXIC MOLD EXPOSURE scientifically known as Stachybotrys wreak havoc with your brain and body health…   Stachybotrys is actually a toxin that releases toxic gas and spores into the air. When the toxins are inhaled or enter your body through your skin’s pores, the toxic gases can disrupt healthy brain function and impact behavior…” 

“Wow… On May 6, 1619, the Synod of Dort close with this claim: This doctrine [of perseverance] is something which the flesh does not understand; but The Bride of Christ, however, has always loved… On May 6, 2019, Prince Harry and Meghan, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, have welcomed their first child, a boy…”

On May 6, 1619, the Synod of Dort promulgated the Canons as a final statement on the controversial issues that disturbed the Reformed church in The Netherlands. The international character of the synod underscores the importance of its theological decisions.

 

The importance of its theology justifies an academic re-assessment of the theology of Dort. The Canons close with this claim: This doctrine [of perseverance] is something which the flesh does not understand, Satan hates, the world ridicules, the ignorant and the hypocrites abuse, and the heretics attack. The Bride of Christ, however, has always loved this doctrine most tenderly and defended it (Canons of Dort 5.15). 1619:

https://www.acrh.eu/application/files/9715/5605/0125/Draft_Program_.pdf

An extraordinary year in which American democracy and American slavery emerged hand in hand Along the banks of the James River, Virginia, during an oppressively hot spell in the middle of summer 1619, two events occurred within a few weeks of each other that would profoundly shape the course of history. In the newly built church at Jamestown, the General Assembly–the first gathering of a representative governing body in America–came together. A few weeks later, a battered privateer entered the Chesapeake Bay carrying the first African slaves to land on mainland English America. In 1619, historian James Horn sheds new light on the year that gave birth to the great paradox of our nation: slavery in the midst of freedom.   

This portentous year marked both the origin of the most important political development in American history, the rise of democracy, and the emergence of what would in time become one of the nation’s greatest challenges: the corrosive legacy of racial inequality that has afflicted America since its beginning.

“Wow… On May 6, 1619, the Synod of Dort close with this claim: This doctrine [of perseverance] is something which the flesh does not understand; but The Bride of Christ, however, has always loved…

On May 6, 2019, Prince Harry and Meghan, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, have welcomed their first child, a boy…” 

“Wow… Gayle King claim to be a great friend to Orpah but suppose she discovered, after all these years, that it was Orpah that set up her husband with the woman she caught him with and made sure she got home just in time to catch them getting busy??? I don’t believe that Gayle King or Orpah should be giving relationship advise to young black women because the only relationship that exist between the two of them is a BFF Friendship… The sad thing about this scenario is the DAMAGE these two women are doing to young black women planning a future…”

Wow… Gayle King you claim to be a great friend to Orpah but suppose you discovered, after all these years, that it was Orpah that set up your husband with the woman you caught him with and made sure you got home just in time to catch them getting busy??? 

https://www.oprahmag.com/entertainment/a27165071/oprah-gayle-og-chronicles-stedman-family-drama/ 

Would you still be BFF or would that be another (ugly) Shade of the Color Purple???

I say this from experience because I was a faithful black man in my marriage but it still ended in divorce…
I never understood why???
As God would have it, some 20 years later, my Ex BFF, who I knew called me to confess that she knew my Ex cheated on me throughout our entire marriage…She said she knew she should have told me before then but she didn’t…  I believe it was probably her husband (who I also knew from College days) who my Ex was cheating with…
This man died shortly after his wife called me to confess the TRUTH to me…
He was in his mid 50s…
I thanked her for telling me with her confession because it answered a lot of questions for me…
Shortly after her husbands death my Ex BFF also died…
She was also in her mid 50s… 

I said all of that to say, things aren’t always as they appear…  If my Ex BFF had not called me with her confession I would have never suspected her or her husband having anything to do with my divorce…
I don’t believe that Gayle King or Orpah should be giving relationship advise because the only relationship that exist between the two of them is a BFF Friendship…  Gayle King been divorced for many years so what does she know about relationship accept when the going gets rough quit and get out…
There isn’t any need even to address what Orpah may or may not know about relationship because there isn’t any evidence to prove anything different…  It appears to me her and Stedman have a business relationship so how can she relate to any one in a committed relationship – NOT???
The sad thing about this scenario is the DAMAGE these two women are doing to young black women planning a future…  I see them all the time – homeless in cars and on park benches…  And when I inquire why she doesn’t have a man to help  her  through the rough times, they say something stupid like the advise I hear Gayle and Orpah giving… So I leave them where I find them… 

I met a black young lady who had this – pie in the sky  mentality – like Gayle and Orpah advise, but she was down and out on the street…  I tried to give her some real world advice like where to eat and where to sleep but she was so indoctrinated against doing what God intended – woman meet  man – and the two build a relationship together that I left her as I found her…
Last I heard she was in jail for stealing…
Therefore from my perspective Orpah advise is kryptonite for a young black woman and for the black community at large…

“Wow… Gayle King claim to be a great friend to Orpah but suppose she discovered, after all these years, that it was Orpah that set up her husband with the woman she caught him with and made sure she got home just in time to catch them getting busy???  I don’t believe that Gayle King or Orpah should be giving relationship advise to young black women because the only relationship that exist between the two of them is a BFF Friendship… The sad thing about this scenario is the DAMAGE these two women are doing to young black women planning a future…”